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When our Sexpert, Joan Worth, tackled a sticky situation just lately, she – and we – had been amazed on the vary of responses (learn it right here).
In sum, a girl broke up together with her lover of a number of years as a result of he refused to take away the images of his well-loved first spouse…together with a semi-nude considered one of her…in his bed room.
We included a ballot asking readers to vote on who they thought was in the correct – the girl who objected to the pix, or the person who refused. Listed below are the outcomes:
He ought to have taken down no less than a number of the bed room photographs in the event that they bothered his lover. 38%
Joan’s proper, she ought to have voiced her emotions after which let it drop with out an ultimatum. 28%
His recollections of his spouse are vital to him and he ought to be capable to cling her photographs. 18%
She was proper to present an ultimatum in spite of everything that point they spent collectively and him not appearing on her request. 16%
For those who haven’t weighed in on this, right here’s the ballot:
All of us have pasts (and as we age that previous will get longer and longer!) The difficulty right here appears to be how a lot sway we give (or permit) the previous to have in our current and our future…and within the current and way forward for others.
Our readers had an fascinating array of responses…
“He seems like an insensitive, uncompromising particular person.”
-Debra B.
“Within the case described above I believe the brand new girl overreacted and thereby destroyed a budding connection.”
-Keith M.
“Critically, they’ve been making love below her watchful eyes for years? – Ew’
-Michelle M.
Among the many feedback, Claudie H. bought quite a lot of “Amens” among the many respondents…try her considerate remark under, and be happy so as to add your individual.
Virge Randall is Senior Planet’s Managing Editor. She can be a contract tradition reporter who seeks out hidden gems and unsung (or undersung) treasures for Straus Newspapers; her weblog “Don’t Get Me Began” places a unusual new spin on Previous Faculty New York Metropolis. Ship your options for Open Threads to her at [email protected].